Comments on: Big Cook, Little Cook http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/ Welcome to the home of Beta Mum - who lacks the lifestyle and perfectionist tendencies of Alpha Mummy, but rubs along pretty well most of the time Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:24:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Lindsay http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3612 Lindsay Sun, 11 May 2008 06:28:40 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3612 by the way jill, you're racist. and your manners are disgusting. by the way jill,

you’re racist. and your manners are disgusting.

]]> By: Lindsay http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3611 Lindsay Sun, 11 May 2008 06:28:06 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3611 Hey, I'm a naturally born red head from the U.S. I guess I've been really lucky in regards towards 'ginger' racism...also known as 'gingerism'. There were a few minor things that got me down: 1. When people called me ginger, they meant it in a mean and negative way. Even the act of labeling a person makes them feel as if they are less of a value, special... they are now just part of a group (however, today, i have changed my view on the word. I even have a picture of the word ginger on my wall. it's supposed to be talking about the crop, but everyone knows the word serves a different meaning). 2. people called me stupid names like carrot top, and other stupid things.. 3. One reason I began hating my hair was because the first month of 7th grade, as i began making friends in my new school, a bully came up to me and asked me if I had a fire crotch.. And I'm sure all of you can safely deduce exactly what he meant by that. I didn't for a little while, but after I caught on, the fire crotch phenomenon had already broke loose. It was normal to get questions about my pubic hair from 7th-8th grade. As a result, from 7th grade up until the beginning of 9th grade I was incredibly sensitive about my hair...down there. But, today, still in high school, if anyone asks me what my hair color down there is, I tell them to use their logic and figure it out on their own. There is no reason to be ashamed of diversity. We are unique and colorful. The U.K. is filled with stupid arrogant blonde, brunette, and black haired people. If they had some of the comments thrown at them that we had to deal with, then they'd be in a completely different mindset. The world is beautiful, the people who live on it are beautiful, and we red heads are beautiful. Hey, I’m a naturally born red head from the U.S. I guess I’ve been really lucky in regards towards ‘ginger’ racism…also known as ‘gingerism’.
There were a few minor things that got me down:
1. When people called me ginger, they meant it in a mean and negative way. Even the act of labeling a person makes them feel as if they are less of a value, special… they are now just part of a group (however, today, i have changed my view on the word. I even have a picture of the word ginger on my wall. it’s supposed to be talking about the crop, but everyone knows the word serves a different meaning).
2. people called me stupid names like carrot top, and other stupid things..
3. One reason I began hating my hair was because the first month of 7th grade, as i began making friends in my new school, a bully came up to me and asked me if I had a fire crotch.. And I’m sure all of you can safely deduce exactly what he meant by that. I didn’t for a little while, but after I caught on, the fire crotch phenomenon had already broke loose. It was normal to get questions about my pubic hair from 7th-8th grade. As a result, from 7th grade up until the beginning of 9th grade I was incredibly sensitive about my hair…down there. But, today, still in high school, if anyone asks me what my hair color down there is, I tell them to use their logic and figure it out on their own.

There is no reason to be ashamed of diversity. We are unique and colorful. The U.K. is filled with stupid arrogant blonde, brunette, and black haired people. If they had some of the comments thrown at them that we had to deal with, then they’d be in a completely different mindset.

The world is beautiful, the people who live on it are beautiful, and we red heads are beautiful.

]]> By: Beta Mum http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3388 Beta Mum Thu, 06 Mar 2008 19:14:51 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3388 speaker of the truth - while I agree with your sentiments, I've bleeped out your comment, in case younger readers - my ginger son perhaps - happen upon it. speaker of the truth - while I agree with your sentiments, I’ve bleeped out your comment, in case younger readers - my ginger son perhaps - happen upon it.

]]> By: The speaker of the truth http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3386 The speaker of the truth Wed, 05 Mar 2008 21:47:49 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-3386 Jill, you're a c**t. Jill, you’re a c**t.

]]> By: jill http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-1299 jill Sun, 02 Dec 2007 16:26:47 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-1299 Get a hair dye. Sorry but ginga is minga!!!!!!!!!!!! Get a hair dye. Sorry but ginga is minga!!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: Beta Mum http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-505 Beta Mum Sun, 24 Jun 2007 21:41:35 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-505 Costa - I will try the "gingerist" suggestion when it happens again - although it's not a problem at school, not yet anyhow. Thanks for dropping by Amber - his hair is gorgeous, but I don't think he'll see it like that if it becomes even more of a problem. I'm working on the self-confidence route, so he'll see it as their problem and not his, if it does get worse. Costa - I will try the “gingerist” suggestion when it happens again - although it’s not a problem at school, not yet anyhow.
Thanks for dropping by Amber - his hair is gorgeous, but I don’t think he’ll see it like that if it becomes even more of a problem. I’m working on the self-confidence route, so he’ll see it as their problem and not his, if it does get worse.

]]> By: Amber http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-499 Amber Sun, 24 Jun 2007 18:53:47 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-499 Hi there, I've been meaning to comment here ever since your comment on my blog... I'm so sorry to hear your son has been on the receiving end of this stupid prejudice. I was lucky not to be too badly bullied because of my hair, but however hard it was for me, I often think it must have been almost as bad for my poor mother to have to hear about it. The way my parents used to deal with it was by constantly reassuring me that my hair was beautiful, and that it was the kids who teased me about it who had the problem, not me. If nothing else, "gingerism" is at least a way to work out who's stupid and who's not :) I love my hair now and I wouldn't change it, but I do get frustrated by people who seem to expect me to feel self-conscious or apologietic about it. Hang in there - I bet his hair is gorgeous. Amber Hi there,

I’ve been meaning to comment here ever since your comment on my blog… I’m so sorry to hear your son has been on the receiving end of this stupid prejudice. I was lucky not to be too badly bullied because of my hair, but however hard it was for me, I often think it must have been almost as bad for my poor mother to have to hear about it.

The way my parents used to deal with it was by constantly reassuring me that my hair was beautiful, and that it was the kids who teased me about it who had the problem, not me. If nothing else, “gingerism” is at least a way to work out who’s stupid and who’s not :) I love my hair now and I wouldn’t change it, but I do get frustrated by people who seem to expect me to feel self-conscious or apologietic about it.

Hang in there - I bet his hair is gorgeous.

Amber

]]> By: COSTAPACKET http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-487 COSTAPACKET Thu, 21 Jun 2007 20:02:56 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-487 I have 'ginger' hair myself and I am the mother of 3 'ginger' haired children. When they got picked on at school I told them to say to the tormentors 'don't be gingerist' - seemed to work. One child was tormented at Cubs for having ginger hair by a black child and eventually he shut him up by calling him a 'hamburger' LOL I have ‘ginger’ hair myself and I am the mother of 3 ‘ginger’ haired children. When they got picked on at school I told them to say to the tormentors ‘don’t be gingerist’ - seemed to work.

One child was tormented at Cubs for having ginger hair by a black child and eventually he shut him up by calling him a ‘hamburger’ LOL

]]> By: Mother at Large http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-279 Mother at Large Thu, 24 May 2007 11:01:16 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-279 My husband had orange hair when he was a kid; it's faded to mousey/fairish over the years, but there's still a ginger tinge in certain lights. He got bullied, too as a kid, like your son. Children can be so cruel, can't they, it's heartbreaking to see and hear about, and that's when it's other people's children. When my husband told me about the childhood bullying it made me fall more deeply in love with him. What I'm trying, in a really incompetent, round-about way, to say, is that I sympathise with you and your son. My husband had orange hair when he was a kid; it’s faded to mousey/fairish over the years, but there’s still a ginger tinge in certain lights. He got bullied, too as a kid, like your son. Children can be so cruel, can’t they, it’s heartbreaking to see and hear about, and that’s when it’s other people’s children. When my husband told me about the childhood bullying it made me fall more deeply in love with him. What I’m trying, in a really incompetent, round-about way, to say, is that I sympathise with you and your son.

]]> By: Lucy Diamond http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-269 Lucy Diamond Tue, 22 May 2007 13:25:32 +0000 http://www.cathykeir.co.uk/blog/big-cook-little-cook/#comment-269 Ohhh...my heart went out to your son (and you) when I read this. People can say such hurtful things and as a mum, it's horrible when you can't shield or protect them from everything. It sounds as if you are dealing with it really sensitively, and the only thing you can do is keep building his self-esteem so that he feels confident enough not to let people's teasing bring him down too much. But of course, that's easier said than done. PS Damian Lewis might be a good role model/hero (or is that just in my eyes??) Ohhh…my heart went out to your son (and you) when I read this. People can say such hurtful things and as a mum, it’s horrible when you can’t shield or protect them from everything.
It sounds as if you are dealing with it really sensitively, and the only thing you can do is keep building his self-esteem so that he feels confident enough not to let people’s teasing bring him down too much. But of course, that’s easier said than done.

PS Damian Lewis might be a good role model/hero (or is that just in my eyes??)

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